Last week I gave you my first five things I’ve learnt over the past few years, as I’ve been finding myself and learning who I truly am. In the hope of helping you all, find your path in life. That’s the thing about life that nobody really gets into. They can tell you its tough but you really have to experience it for yourself. Make mistakes, that’s how we learn. That’s actually the best way to learn. You also have to forgive yourself for those mistakes
One of my favorite people on the planet Joy Williams has a phrase she uses and its
Include and Transcend
Include all the bad stuff. The moments you wish you could take back. The mistakes. The things that are plaguing you but use all of it to move on from that. Move forward from it.
Getting to know yourself is a consent experience. Go on the journey, don’t be scared
Believe It Will Happen
No matter the dilemma. It will work out in the end. You will find a way. You’ll find the money, to do what you need to do. You’ll find the answer to your question. You just have to believe it. No, I’m not talking about Oprah’s favourite book. The Secret. If you want to parking spot in a pack shopping centre and just by merely thinking of it.It won’t just appear. You have to do the hard yards and driving around to find it.
Believing that it will happen, enables you to find a way to get there.
Seek Relationships That Are Deeper Then Bitching & Gossip
While it fun when you’re in the click of the chosen few. Beware. The ones that gossip with you, will gossip about you down the line. Seek people who understand you, the real you. Seek people that push you towards your dream. Towards the life that you want to live. Not the life that they are comfortable with you living.
True friends will push you up into the sky, to touch the stars
False friends will push you down into the dirt
Seek relationship where you can be different but the same on the important things. Seek out people you can both be silly with but discuss the important things in life. Neither has to involve bitching, gossiping or putting down others.
Your relationship will actually be strong because of it.
Sometimes You Just Have To Put On Your Big Girl Pants On
Yes, that’s right. Mondays sometimes suck. We have to work hard for the money that gives us the ability to live the life we want to live. Sometimes we’ll have to do things we don’t want to do to make other people happy. That’s all a part of this crazy thing called life.
If you a problem, put your big girl panties on and deal with the problem. Don’t run from it. Don’t move. Don’t put the problem in new surroundings or in a pretty new dress and think that just because its standing in some place different, in a pretty new dress that the problem is solved. It’s not. The core problem will always be there, until you deal with it.
Don’t be afraid to make waves. If you don’t like something, speak up. Fix it. That may tick some people off and make life uncomfortable for a short amount of time but what You’ll gain for that time. From speaking your mind, that will be immeasurable
It will take courage but every single one of us has that courage inside us. Whether we know it or not
Not Everyone Will Understand
And that’s okay. People will view your life in the context of their own life and their own abilities. They are not you. Sometimes these same people will ridicule you for it. Never underestimate the power of saying – Get F**Ked – and doing it anyway
Stand your ground. Live your life the way you want too. It’s your life, not theirs. Love who you want to love, it’s your heart to give not theirs. Be true to yourself. Work hard and keep going. In the end they won’t have a choice but see that you made the right choice, for you. People can never deny hard work or passion. Live your passionately and light up the world with your flames.
There Is No Such Thing As Perfection
There is no such thing as perfection, but you can find perfection in the life you already have.
Happiness is ultimately a choice. Ingrid Bergman reportedly once said – Success is getting what you want; happiness is wanting what you get.
You can think you have success or prefect life when you have a mini mac-mansion. A new car every two to five years. The latest gadgets. Designer clothes – but that’s not perfection. In the end you’ll just be well dressed, with a pretty car and the driveway of a mausoleum.
Perfection is different for everyone.
You will never find true perfection through negativity. Sometimes living life positively takes practice. It’s a mindset rather than an activity or object. It can take time and seeing something spectacular in simplicity
Sure we don’t have much in the bank but we have a roof over our heads and heating
Sure you don’t want to go to work in the morning, but you’ll be eating dinner tonight
Sure you missed the bus, but at least you didn’t get hit by it
Find perfection in the little moments of your life
Be thankful for the perfection that already exists