Hi My Loves,
I was watching a short on you tube during the week about Yellowstone, wolfs and climbing rocks. Other then it was beautifully shot and inspiring to watch. Something stuck me. A person interview said – people crave something real in today’s world
Think about it. As a community, any community, any country we are surround by fakery. Mostly we do it for show. So we are accepted. Maybe because we think we needed to, just for the simple fact that – that just what we do. Reality tv shows that aren’t reality. Fake people, fake nature, fake b. Fake, Fake, fake. It’s a way of life now. We are so used to it that we don’t even notice it anymore.
Or maybe we are just so wrapped up in our own lives that – we can’t see we are doing it
A few months back a friend of mine come to our office for a visit. She had been on leave and I hadn’t seen her in forever. I hugged her hello and she hugged me back but it wasn’t just a hug. She meant it. We stood there, heart to heart and she swayed me from side to side and she meant it. We had missed each other and it made me think – how long had it been since I’d been hugged like that, genuinely hugged.
The same story with talking to people. I mean talking. A few years back I found myself frustrated because people weren’t being real. I’d say things and the responses would be – This is what you say in this situation – not that it was the persons fault. It was what was socially acceptable to say that situation. They were being supportive – the best way they knew how but was not real
I don’t care if you disagree with me. I don’t care if you call me crazy. I don’t care if you say – I don’t understand why you do that?
Just be real with me.
One of the worst things you can say to someone when they are pouring their heart out to you is say flatly
As long as you’re happy and not really mean it. Whatever makes you happy. When you don’t know what else to say
Whatever makes you happy- shouldn’t be used as a full stop.
No matter the good intent behind your words – the other person knows the difference.
You feel the difference.
Someone who inspires me greatly is a woman by the name of Angi Greene – she posted on Facebook this week. That when she is sad, it was harder for her to take care of herself. Her go to years back was cigarettes and coffee. Anything to numb the pain. Hide from it. She said – we are not trained sit with pain, to hold it, learn to be vulnerable. How we can change all of it with each day choices – mainly choices to take care of ourselves
But just take a second and think about that for a second. We numb pain, we numb uncomfortable. Cigarettes, caffeine, alcohol, drugs, sex, music. Anything to disappear or at least make the pain disappear
We never sit with pain and feel it until the pain is gone because it does go away but pain always demands to be felt – that is why it is there.
The bottom line is
The world tells us
Don’t Cry. Don’t Fear. Don’t Let Anyone Else Know. What.Will.The.Neighbors.Think – plaster a big fake smile on your face and tell them your fine and have a great day.
We are conditioned from a very young age about this way of life
You know what – Fuck the neighbors – Fuck what they think- Fuck their feelings and just be fucking real – with yourself and the world
Seek out the Real. Seek out genuine people. It will make all the difference in the world
So this weekend, do me a favour. Just an itty bitty one.
Go outside, take you shoes off. Sit down and put your feet on and in the grass. Connect with the earth. Feel it because it is below you and its real.
Or at the very least – ask yourself a question
Life. Love. Hugs. Dreams. People. If it’s not genuine, what is the point? #lifeistooshort
Seek it out. Start changing your own world and then change someone elses