Hi Beautiful Souls,
Reading the beautiful Gwen’s post a few months back and she addressed Discussing Your Writing With Others and it got me to thinking – Telling people that you’re a writer/author/artist/actor/anything creative is tough. Not only do you thing that you stand there being judged because of it – in the stewie griffin style of
‘How you uh, how you comin’ on that novel you’re working on? Huh? Gotta big, uh, big stack of papers there? Gotta, gotta nice little story you’re working on there? Your big novel you’ve been working on for 3 years? Huh? Gotta, gotta compelling protagonist? Yeah? Gotta obstacle for him to overcome? Huh? Gotta story brewing there? Working on, working on that for quite some time? Huh? [voice getting higher pitched] Yea, talking about that 3 years ago. Been working on that the whole time? Nice little narrative? Beginning, middle, and end? Some friends become enemies, some enemies become friends? At the end your main character is richer from the experience? Yeah? Yeah? [voice returns to normal] No, no, you deserve some time off.’
Shut up Stewie – you still shit in your pants
We put so much of yourself on those pages, into those characters, into whatever you are working on. Its still that fear of not being accepted for it. It’s the fear to having to own it and maybe failing but it’s something you work up too. It’s something you can do with time.
There is a friend of mine KathK who I have known since my first year of high school. We were in the same group and been in each other’s lives for over a decade. Been to weddings, births, christenings and every other major life event together but what we hadn’t done was tell each other that we both wrote. A few years back with some help from another Katherine friend I decided to own my title as writer – screw what people thought- I went on this journey – WordPress, Facebook, twitter – everything I could get my hands on.
That was the catalyst and KathK confessed that she was a writer too.
The next time we actually saw each other (even though we live around the corner from each other) was a year or so later and the first question she asked me, as only a friend can, was:
Are there any sex scenes in your book?
We may both struggling through this writing world that we have entered into but above all – we are still those two young girls in a school playground – having wildly inappropriate chats – we’ll never change.
Once you embrace the creative part of yourself and be somewhat – if not entirely pride of it – things change, you get stronger. You maybe not tell everybody it met the plot-sub plot – character arch – I know I don’t. I make an effort not to be. I like it to be a surprise once its all said and done.
But its okay to admit that You are who you are. You love what you love. It’s a part of you. Embrace it and it will embrace you.