She always said, “Marry up. Marry someone grand” ~ Penny Lane
Once upon a time a woman’s one job was to be well education and attract the right type of man. For his money or his title and as Cathy says in Wuthering Heights Once a woman’s reputation is gone she has nothing. Her prime objective was to find a man.
In the fifties well, we all know what happened there and we have all seen The Donna Reed Show. The “ideal wife” had appeared. Donna Reed’s character, Donna Stone, was a loving mother and wife, but also a strong woman, an active participant in her community, a woman with feelings and a sense of humour. According to many of Reed’s friends and family, Reed shared many similarities to the character that she portrayed on screen, implying that the fictional Donna Stone was a near-identical copy of Reed herself but at least people married with love in their hearts.
Over the past few years it seems (for now at least) that your friends are your soul mates and men are the ones we have fun with. I know this to be true with my friends. I don’t know if it’s because we all went to an all-girls school and we didn’t have males to distract us, from building that strong bond. I have been told my whole life that you’ll have your friends until you all get married and have kids then you’ll all move on. That is true for some but a majority of my girls are married with kids and we all still are a huge part of each other lives. We’re aunties to their kids and whenever something go wrong – we drop everything and go to where the bad event is happening. Armed with alcohol, chocolate or a bucket of laughs – whatever is needed to make the situation better and for the husbands it is pretty much, you marry me, you marry my friends.
It’s an interesting leap isn’t it? It’s gone from needing a man to have a full life to have your friends completing your life
To All My Soulmates. You are my sunshine xo